1.2.3. Asking For Exactly What You Want, The Pain of Honesty & How to Open a Pizza Shop

THREE BITES FROM YOURS TRULY to enhance your pizza game


I’m learning that it’s a lot easier to get the things I really want when I actually reach out and ask for them! Not being afraid to put myself out there, not waiting around for someone to notice me, or wasting my time getting upset over stories I’ve created in my head as to why I’m not getting exactly what I want.

Fear is a crazy-ass thing. It’s instilled in us very early and is a hard thing to overcome. We tell ourselves all kinds of things in avoidance of 2 things: rejection and failure. We will stew in pain, or lose sleep over things we have total control of but are too afraid to confront. It’s crazy how hard it is to be honest sometimes. Honest to ourselves, in communication with one another, and about how we feel.

I want this kind of honesty in all my restaurants, my love life, and my public interactions. I want to be unapologetically me. I want to know exactly what people are thinking because I want to tell them what I am.

I’ve recently asked to be on certain podcasts, reached out to publications for help promoting Hot Tongue, and lent my expertise in hopes that they would be met with open arms.

To my surprise, it has created a lot of opportunities. I really like the quote that “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed.” Being able to ask for the opportunity, to be humble, to be honest in what I want, and what I’m asking for has opened up a lot of doors just this month. Not everyone got back to me, and not all the inquiries were met with positive outcomes. Still, every single one was a success.


If you or someone you know is curious about how to open a pizza shop, we’ve put together a free guide to help anyone get their idea off the ground while avoiding half of the shit storm I went through.

Matt and I worked very hard putting this together. There is a lot of great info and plenty of insight to help anyone thinking about opening a restaurant of their own.


“Honesty is often very hard. The truth is often painful. But the freedom it can bring is worth the trying.” — Fred Rogers

Honesty is usually the less easy option, but it’s the option that can dispel doubt and fear in the long run. Compressing the truth, or hiding it, especially in the restaurant industry, mostly just pushes problems down the road until they eventually, inevitably, blow up into a full-on shit flood.

Truth always has a way of bubbling up.

It’s also important to be honest with ourselves. To hold ourselves accountable for what we’ve done, what we could do, and what we didn’t do. Honesty is truly freedom from a lot of the walls we put up in our minds. The truth always sets us free.


EXTRA SLICE: Here is a great Ted Talk about honest liars.

Love, crust and pizza dust,

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